Smut University – Perspectives

Written by Lulu M

Once upon a time our smutty romances we ventured toward to get “into the mood” or “prep the bean for flicking” involved the Scarlet O’Hara esque type women. Sweet romances and extra sweet schmexin’. It involved soft hands, loving words, whispered breaths…In other words, hunterhunting’s probably wouldn’t fit in. And yet, nowadays we are enjoying the rougher side of sex, mainly brought onto us with the growing number of male point of views.

Does this mean that more men are writing about sex out there? Not necessarily, and I can’t say for sure because my lazy ass doesn’t want to look that up for you, but it does mean that more women are writing from a male perspective. You also have to take into consideration that fandom you are writing in. Though Twilight is told from a female POV, the lead male does play a big part in the plot. And when you are encountered with such a hot and delicious specimen, who can resist trying to channel that into a story? Now take Sailor Moon for example (yes I was moonie at one point of my life). A story that involves five teenage girls, running around in short skirts, fighting bad guys…is there a rush to write from male perspective? Not so much.

However, with this new explosion of male perspectives, we are also faced with the question of how to write it. In the past, sex has mainly sported a softer side. Why? Because women were the main contributors. It isn’t true ALL of the time, but MOST of the time and in general, men and women view sex differently.

In stories, we are often encountered with male narrators that seem to feminine. I once read a chapter over for an author (and I won’t say who it is, but you know who you are!) and her male narrator said “silly.” I pointed out, I had never heard a man say something was “silly.” She responded back by saying she had…but all those men were gay…Resulting in, she changed up her wording a bit. I’m not saying straight men out there don’t say silly, but in writing, when an author is building the visual for us, we do somwhat need to stay within the realm of what is masculine and what is feminine.

In order to do so, if you plan on writing from the male and female perspective, it’s a good idea to do some research on how women and men think differently *coughLESSON1cough*

  • 1. Men are problem solvers – this was a reoccurring trait in my research. Men tend to vent their problems within themselves. They feel the need to solve it on their own. Whereas women tend to congregate with friends and vent to each other. In addition, men don’t express their emotions as much as women. They don’t talk about what made them sad or mad or happy. They focus on the facts.

  • 2. Men are action orientated – They act irrationally and do without thinking about the consequences. If a guy wants to kiss a girl, he probably will. Except maybe if he was a teenager. That’s a whole other ball game you have to consider. Teen angst is something we ALL went through. Those darn hormones…
  • 3. Are more visual (this one cracked me up) – This is why Play Boy works more on men than women. Stick them with a couple of pictures of women with their boobies and hoohoos hanging out and its wank away.
  • 4. Men think about sex differently – “Sex is simpler and more straightforward for them. That does not mean that men do not seek intimacy, love, and connection in a relationship, just as women do. They just view the role of sex differently. Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is the language men use to express their tender loving vulnerable side. It is their language of intimacy.” (from WebMD) The WebMD part cracks me up a bit, but still, they hit the bulls eye.

There’s a whole spew of stuff one can consider on the differences between men and women. I got my stuff from (and thanks to the wonderful ObsessingOverEdward for helping me out on this):

But I think the biggest point I want really want to point out is KNOW your characters. We all start out with a very stereotypical outlook on men and women (and the above can attest to that). However all those little quirks that makes our characters unique is on us to show to the readers. If you are a female who is going to write from a male point of view, the first step you need to do is understand the male psyche. If you are able to make friends easily with male’s, laugh and joke, and not get all personal toward their slightly crude punch lines, kudos to you. You will have an easier time. If not, it might take some effort and practice.

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